A Little Less Y-E-S:
I wish I could jump straight into the outfit because I’m obsessed with the Rach Parcell Everyday Collection! I’ll get to that next, but whew is it good you guys!
Okay I hear you… what? Yes is a HUGE part of my daily vocabulary! I feel ya girl, I feel ya! I shared last night on instagram that I’ve been working really hard on weeding out what doesn’t bring me joy. A got a lot of DM’s saying that others were doing the same! (I LOOOOOOOVE dm’s from you guys by the way so keep them coming!) I think we all are struggling right now. We are pulled in a million directions everyday and even just loading up our social accounts (both for bloggers and not… I’ve asked!) can feel so daunting! It almost feels like a rabbit hole!
So I’m going to tell you a few little things I’ve done so far that have really helped me. (I’m doing a little weekly touch base with the sweet ladies in my facebook group on a book that is 100% about this on Sunday nights if you would like to join! The book is called “Your Best Yes” by Lysa Terkeurst.
3 Things I did that took a little word called N-O!
-Designate your time on Social Media:
Being a blogger I had to do this for my personal sanity! I started using an app called Moment. Moment tracks where I spend my time and how much I’m on my phone. Wow was this an eye opener! I checked one day a few months ago and it was over 5 hours. WHHHHHAT? No way jose! Now I check my phone in the morning, at lunch, and give myself tech time every night. If I need a night off… I take it! I feel so much more free not stuck to my phone screen all day! I save posts if I don’t have time to read them, I answer comments when I’m during my screen time hours… it’s been life changing. I highly recommend giving yourself a reality check and using this app!
-If something doesn’t serve you, It needs to go!:
Okay… so I know you’re thinking it’s not possible. It is though! Church, getting up early, the gym, spending time with family that you don’t always get along with… those things may not be your favorite, but they still serve you. I’m talking about the things that suck the life out of you. Maybe you have a small group that just doesn’t fill you up, maybe a friend that is dragging you down, maybe you have signed up for 5,000 + things for your church, your child’s school, doing carpool for a million other parents, covering for someone at work more than you should have to… it adds up and it leaves you feeling empty. I’m still working on this, but I started saying no more. I’m working on being more open and vocal, but sometimes I just try the avoidance approach. I don’t recommend that because I feel like that’s a slippery slope to going back to old habits.
I stopped several things: a blogger partnership that wasn’t working for me, I started investing back into friends who support me and vice versa, I said no to things that didn’t interest me, and I stopped signing up for things for A LONG TIME. Now I’m introducing back in, but being very selective! This means I have to really weigh my options when going to say yes or no because one little thing will totally throw off my vibe. I actually got some major inspo for this from my sweet blogger friend Laura Leigh this past weekend on our trip to Asheville. She is legit the most easy going person in the world, but she goes right after what she wants. She also has no hard time saying no and also does it in the nicest way. I.E. when I desperately wanted to go to Wicked Weed just to scope it out after dinner one night and she was like okay sure! When we got there she was like no I don’t want anything, but I wanted to make sure you were able to go. So there… she was into going and seeing what they had going on, but she was full and not really keen on the idea of adding some beer on top of that. (same with the coffee stop I made on the way back…. I went hard in Asheville ya’ll!). Saying no isn’t mean, it’s honest. If you can’t, DON’T! Don’t overextend yourself and free yourself up to give your best in everything you do!
-Focusing in on WHAT I LIKE, not what social media tells me to like:
I feel bad even saying this… heck I am shilling outfits on the ‘gram daily! I do think personal style is a science… you have to really hone in on your tastes to find the sweet spot! I’ve been doing this myself. I have pieces in my closet that I purchased because I saw them over and over on other bloggers and thought my base of readers would love them too! I got lost in it for a bit. I feel like since turning 30 this year a switch has flipped in me and I’m not so wrapped up in pleasing other people. I like what I like and I want the people who follow me and read my blog to like that to of course, but if they don’t and decide to unfollow me… that’s okay! That just means they aren’t my target audience! Wear what you like, do what you like, be who you like! It takes a lot of quiet time, self reflection, and saying a whole lot of no’s… but that’s a good thing.
So this outfit ya’ll! I’m so behind and the top has sold out, but Rach Parcell came out with the Rach Parcell Everyday Collection and it is soooo good! The prices are way lower than her main collection and really are the perfect “everyday” pieces. I’m a little obsessed with Rach Parcell Everyday… it’s a problem. I linked some of her new arrivals in the widget below! So good! I need that yellow sweater!
I hope you enjoyed today’s post! I’m trying to share more real life tips and tricks here and I’ve gotten a great response so far! I’ve loved connecting more with you guys!